I don't know when or how it happens but somehow we go from being light, breezy and carefree girls who love the world to wanting to shrink and fit in, to not be noticed for all of our amazing qualities. The light in us is seen as a nuisance instead of the beauty that it is.
We start to compare, we start to think we are not ENOUGH in some way. We are not smart enough, we are not pretty enough, we are not good enough at dance/sports/singing etc. So we stop. Instead of realizing we are our own beautiful entity, we start comparing and giving ourselves away to become who "they" say we should be. We start changing to fit a mold that society has put on us for how smart we should be. Be smart, but not too smart as to not make others feel bad. How beautiful we should be, if you are not beautiful "enough" go buy this product, this makeup, these clothes. Our not enough-ness is a marketing field day. They love to hit us where we are weak.
What if we all collectively decided to teach our children and our selves that we are ENOUGH. Exactly as we are, without changing anything? Wouldn't that release the shame, the guilt and the expectations that we put on ourselves. Think about this, we put this on ourselves. We believe what the media and advertisements tell us about how to be happy. We believe it because we just don't know better and we certainly don't know how to get their on our own. It's not something we are taught outright, although it should be.
We believe that happy is the only feeling we can feel. The only acceptable emotion. If we are not happy we will answer with "I'm fine" because we don't think others want to hear our truth. We stuff down and ignore the other feelings that are less pleasant because we think others don't ever feel this way and there must be something wrong with us.
What I am saying is I want you to know YOU ARE ENOUGH. Your thoughts and feelings matter. You deserve to feel them just as they are. In fact you NEED to feel them to live a healthy life. Trying not to feel leads to numbing. This numbing has caused so much pain in our society. Different ways of numbing can range from a recurrent Netflix binge to a drug addiction. Food is the biggest numbing agent in our culture. It's also lead to an obesity epidemic that has never been seen before. Endless scrolling is also a numbing agent. So the next time you decide to do one of these things, ask yourself if you are numbing. Identifying and realizing your triggers are the first step to healing.
Repeat after me, I am ENOUGH just as I am. I know you won't believe it yet, but just know that I believe it for you and it's the truth. The only person who does not believe you are enough just as you are is probably you. If you ask those that love and support you they will say the same. If they don't, it's time for a new tribe. Live Inspired by Sarah Ommen is my open Facebook group and we will accept you will open arms!
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